The Thin Blue Line Foundation is committed to helping law enforcement strengthen their marriages. Make a commitment today to spend more time investing in your marriage.  It is such an important commitment that requires ongoing dedication for success.  

Getting Started

Monthly Marriage Challenge:

  • Ask each other how you would like your life to be different three years from now.  What could you do to make that a reality?
  • Ask each other what two things are your greatest hopes and greatest fears. How can you help each other address these?
  • Book recommenation of the month:  A Marriage in Progress, Tactical Support for Law Enforcement Relationships, by Victoria Newman (listed below)

Video Resources:


Recommended Marriage Books

Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, John M. Gottman  

Seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. More info here.

Love Life: For Every Married Couple, Ed Wheat M.D.

Dr. Wheat will help you improve your marriage answering physical, psychological and stress-related questions to bring your feelings of love back to life. More info here.

The Love Dare, Alex Kendrick & Stephen Kendrick

Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.  It’s time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage. More info here.

I Love A Cop, Ellen Kirschman, Ph.D.

Nothing worth doing is easy--and that includes loving a cop. Being a member of the law enforcement community is a source of pride for officers and families alike. But long hours, unpredictable shifts, and the crisis-driven nature of the profession can turn life on the home front into an emotional roller coaster. Dr. Ellen Kirschman, a psychologist who's worked with police officers for more than 30 years, gives you practical ways to deal with the challenges that come with the territory. More info here.

The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide To Strengthening Your Marriage, John M. Gottman  

Dr. Gottman writes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. More info here.   

Visit John M. Gottman's website here.

The Five Love Languages, The Secrets of Love That Last, Gary Smalley

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? More info here. 

52 Uncommon Dates, Gary Chapman  

Each date will set the scene for you and walk you through making it happen. Learn how to practically speak each other’s love language, incorporate prayer in ways that are natural and relevant to real life, and finish strong with questions that help keep conversation alive. More info here.

View Gary Chapman's site here.

His Needs-Her Needs, Willard F. Harley, Jr.    

Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs. More info here.

View Willard F. Halrley, Jr.'s website here.

A Marriage in Progress, Tactical Support for Law Enforcement Relationships, Victoria Newman

A Marriage in Progress – Tactical Support for Law Enforcement Relationships is the law enforcement training manual for off-duty life. Written specifically to and for officers, Victoria looks at relationships through principles and examples of police training and culture. It includes positive perspectives, real stories, encouragement, practical tools, and personal examples for how to improve your personal life as a member of law enforcement. More info here. 

View Victoria Newman's website here.

Team US Marriage Together, Ashleigh Slater

When a couple promises “I do,” they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. Nothing can come between them.  But then real life sets in, bringing with it disappointments and frustrations. If the couple isn’t intentional in their day-to-day interactions, that once enthusiastic “we” can slowly revert to “you” and “me.” Before long, the couple’s left wondering what happened to their team spirit. More info here.

Love and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

A wife has one driving need―to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need―to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly. More info here.   

The Meaning of Marriage, Timothy Keller

Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible. More info here. 


Video Resources